Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Straightening Young Girl's Hair

That I'm against relaxers on small children is no secret, I've done several posts about it. And right now I find myself wanting to speak up against the practice of straightening children's hair period. Be it a blow out or a flat iron. And mostly my opinion on this does not come from a hair health perspective, even though you need to possess the knowledge to straighten curly hair without damaging it. My opinion on this is one that is based on being a brown skinned curly girl growing up in Sweden. And this post is predominantly targeted towards parents in Scandinavia with curly haired kids.

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I see so many parents discussing straightening of their kids hair on places like Facebook. How to do it, which products to use, which tools to use etc. I always find myself torn in what kind of responses to give these parents. I don't want them to permanently damage their children's hair, and I know how to straighten hair without heat damage so I feel inclined to share this information. Partly because some other people who don't really know what they are talking about sometimes give really bad advice. But I feel torn because I don't think they should be straightening their children's hair at all. Why? Because I think it sends the wrong message to the child. I think as a parent you should help your child to love everything about themselves, the perfections and the imperfections. When you are a curly haired child growing up in a country where the majority doesn't look like you most children dream about being like everyone else, maybe that means straight haired and light skinned. It's only normal for a child to go through this. But I think this "identity crisis" can be short lived or long lived depending on the people that child has around them. And when this "crisis" comes it's how it is handled that makes all the difference. A child who has curly hair and longs for straight hair like his or her peers needs to be strengthened in self image and self worth. He or she need to be assured that they are perfect just the way they are and that they don't have to look like everyone else. I think that a child that is growing up brown skinned and curly haired in Scandinavia has to struggle (maybe for as long as they live) to find their identity in a place that still sees them as foreign/the other. I think this is something that both black and white parents that either haven't grown up here or white parents to brown/black children cannot fully relate to. I think that straightening curly hair can cause the child to feel even worse about themselves. Not only because they move away from their natural self but because they most probably will get overwhelmingly positive response in kindergarten/school etc. This could lead to the child feeling like she's only pretty when her hair is straight. Which may not have been the goal of the hair straightening from the parental perspective at all, but could be the result.

Some of you reading this may think I'm overreacting and taking it to an extreme, but in over three years of blogging about hair I've talked to hundreds of women about hair. And I can't remember anyone saying to me that the way their parents cared for their hair when they were children hasn't affected their relationship to their hair in one way or another. Especially women that have grown up in Scandinavian countries. 

Ultimately you as a parent make the choices for your child. Yes, they can ask to have their hair straightened, but you choose. I cannot tell you what to do, but I hope this post at least got you thinking a bit about how a change in hair style is not just a change in hair style, it can be so much more. 

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Hair Portraits Copenhagen, pt. II

This is the second part of Hair Portraits Copenhagen, where Zozo takes pictures for the blog in Copenhagen, Denmark.

This is Carol, rocking Brazilian hair.







Sunday, July 20, 2014

New Mom Hair Styles

When you have a new baby in the house hair care usually has to be put on the back burner. This was one reason for me installing Marley Twists for the birth (which failed). So now that baby is here I need some quick and easy hair styles to keep my hair healthy and looking presentable. No time for long styling sessions when baby is hungry or needs a diaper change.

The messy bun
You can't really go wrong with this style! It's super quick and easy: just gather all the hair on top of your head with a hair tie, pull through once and on the second time pull it through halfway, adjust to your liking and you're done! If your edges are messy just sleak them down with some gel. 

Messy bun

The head wrap
For bad hair days, for days when you're in a rush and for lazy hair days the head wrap is perfect. A wrap can make you look cute without lots of effort. And there are endless ways to tie a wrap as well as so many different scarves to use. You can't go wrong with a wrap! 

It's a wrap 
The Side Ponytail
This style is so easy and works great in summer. All you need is a hair tie and some gel! Gather your hair to one side and fluff out! Just make sure you gather your hair to the side you usually don't hold your baby on (to avoid getting baby throw up in you hair lol). 

Simple!

Which are your favorite quick and easy hairstyles? How did you wear your hair as a new mom? 

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Newly Natural?

There are countless blogposts and vlogposts on tips for all of the people out there that are going natural or considering going natural. But, the same questions always seem to be asked on social media regarding hair care. Parents who need help with their children's hair, women and men trying to figure out how to care for their own hair... You have to start from somewhere and work your way up.

Instead of me writing a long post on this topic I suggest you watch My Natural Sistas video on the topic for tips.

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Review: Confident Coils by Jessicurl


A few months ago I had a Skype convo with Jessicurl founder Jess. We talked about blogging, hair care, curls in Scandinavia and lots more. Jess is so down to earth and very sweet. We talked about her company's products and she suggested I try their deep treatment and offered to send me some. When my package arrived I was surprised to find not one but four full size bottles in the package! Not only did I receive a bottle of their Deep Treatment but also some Hair Cleansing Cream, Too Shea Extra Moisturizing Conditioner (read my previous review on that here) and Confident Coils Styling Solution. Thank you, Jess!!

To see what Confident Coils would do for me I first tried it by itself in my hair after washing it. When my hair had dried I noticed how elongated my curls were without my hair being weighed down. So I tried different combinations in my hair and was the happiest with using Darcy's Botanticals leave in (see my Favorites list). Confident Coils is very light weight which is great, the down side is that it doesn't last for many days, my hair usually frizzes up on day three with it in it. For me re-applying product isn't a big deal, especially when it doesn't feel like it's leaving residue behind, which is the case of Confident Coils. All and all I really love this product! It's the product I didn't think I needed but will definitely purchase. The only reason why it's not going on my favorites list is because it's not a product I cannot live without.

Ingredients: Water (Aqua), VP/VA Copolymer, Polyimide-1, C 12-15 Alkyl Benzoate, Cetearyl Alcohol (and) Polysorbate 60; Simmondsia Chinensis (Jojoba) Seed Oil, Aloe Barbadensis (Aloe Vera) Leaf Juice Powder, Guar Hydroxypropyltrimonium Chloride, Dehydroxanthan Gum, Magnesium Sulfate (Epsom Salt), Diazolidinyl Urea (and) Iodopropynyl Butylcarbamate

If you want to purchase Confident Coils or other Jessicurl products head over to I Love Natural Hair 

Saturday, July 12, 2014

Pregnancy Hair


When I shared the news about my pregnancy I said I'd share if there were and changes in my hair during pregnancy. Well, I didn't notice anything dramatic. When Carriene (I Love Natural Hair) was here visiting me in March she said my hair looked fuller. I hadn't really noticed. But after she said that I realized I  had less shed hairs when detangling. That's the only thing that really changed during pregnancy if you ask me.

Did you notice any changes in your hair during pregnancy?